Possessed about possessing

Whats the first thing you want to do when you see a beautiful flower?

Even before you admire its beauty, even before you feel its fragrance all around it, the first thing you go on to do is to pluck it or ask its owner if he could lend you a branch of it.

Its the same feeling when you see a beautiful house, a beautiful girl, a person with good income,we just cant stop thinking of possessing the best things in the world.

And at last do we possess anything? We must all leave this world just like Alexander the great did...with our palms unclutched! we cant take with us anything! So why possess?

Why not just enjoy its beauty, why not just live and let live!

Its this quality of wanting to possess that brings in all sorrows in our lives.

Think of it -- if you never wished to have that chair your manager is on, would you not have been happier !

If you had not wished her to be your girlfriend wouldn't you still have been friends and been happy friends!

Had you not wished to posses that gold which was making your neighbor look so pretty - wouldn't you have been pretty and happy both!

Had you not thought of parenting only one child but parenting any child in an orphanage and around the world you wouldn't have been sad for the low marks your son/daughter got for his semester! You would have found happiness in that- so many a children are learning, so many are loving you! you mean so much to so many!

Stop trying to possess! Understand there is nothing you can possess! You can only be the caretaker of something until its passed on to the next!

Stop possessing and the world is yours! or Be possessed and have nothing!

I wanna be haapy :(

I want to be happy J

I,you,he,she --- we all want to be happy. Correct?

Does anyone seek for sadness?

The question we must all meditate on is “what is happiness?” – how do we define it?

You may say/feel – happiness is in getting a good appraisal…a good spouse…a good job..good friends…

The problem is we just cant define what good is. Is an appraisal of 200% good enough? You just learn to say no in a while and go back to whining “I am so underpaid”.

How many couples do we know –who just don’t portray being the idle couple –but actually are.

Have you not ever said “kya ch***** company hai yaar” or said “we are all white collared coolies”.

Have you not thought ill of your best friend or said felt ‘choked’ in his/her company once? – even if you felt guilty about the same thing later…

No matter how many reasons we have to be happy we just manage to find a 1000 ways to still complain and whine.

So is our normal state to be happy or to be sad?

We are all alkalis and halogens of the periodic table of life –waiting for that one atom to attain nobility. But the truth is none of really wants that one atom – if we get it what do we live for?

What else do we crave for?

We just like to be in that constant state of whining --- and I must confess –the people who whine the most (as far as I have seen) are Indians.

We like to earn money, gather it. Make a huge mole of money ---and then what –be buried in it? Why save all that money for your child –then what do you think he/she would do with her/his life?

What you should do instead is to teach them the value of each moment of life, the value of a slice of bread, to live the moment to the fullest. Take them to a vacation instead of saving up a million to pamper and maybe for his/her honeymoon and wedding.

You should take them to old-age homes and orphanage instead of forcing them to go for that ‘music’ class which they dread so much…not that you should stop a child who really relishes music and art, but you should sow the seed of love in their hearts- love for their parents, love for all those who are equi-aged as their parents, to the street dogs and to the ant that he can afford not stamping on. Love his/her motherland, their mother tongue.

Moreover – sacrifice the $30 you may get as overtime for the 3 hours you can be with your child – It would be much more precious to him/her.

Talk to him/her of your personal problems, while reassuring him that everything would be alright and telling him this is life- sometimes sour, sometimes sugary – and more times sour than sweet.

Show him how you love your parents and care for them and he/she would never forget you. Tell him and show him what social responsibility is – and you should create a safe and beautiful planet for him to live in. Encourage him to get drenched and dance in rain –not to be scared of the fever he may have tomorrow.

Tried donating 5 rupees to a beggar? Felt happy ? or felt maybe I gave too much? There is our problem – we just don’t know to give – don’t know how to give selflessly, how to think and help selflessly. We only know how to bribe god with RS.100 and asking him for that new car/house/whatever you have been yearning so much for. Yearning for something is not really bad – infact its really good. It helps you grow, you should all have dreams – but you should at same time realize that those dreams should merely exist for you to go higher in a more important latent goal of your life. And hence losing and gaining cannot really be quantified. If dropping out is considered as being a loser – then we may end up terming Shakespeare,Bill Gates,Ambani and a 100 other on Forbes list and worlds most successful men as losers.

Happiness would be when you see a plant you nurtured give fruits, give shade to others, would be when you can adopt a child and see to it that you treat him equals with your own child.

Happiness would be to make a cancer patient cheer up, to see your child play in a park, to send your parents off for a vacation they so much wanted.

Happiness is now. Happiness is to see others happy. Happiness is in you –its no where else- you really cant find it elsewhere.